Lourdes Anduiza, LCSW
Forgiveness work with Lourdes
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Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood tools in emotional healing. Many people arrive at forgiveness work after years of believing they should be able to "let it go" or "move on," only to find that something inside them still refuses. Something feels like it is digging it's heels in. That refusal is rarely a moral failing. More often, it is a sign that the wound has not yet been heard.
Lourdes works with people who are carrying old or recent hurt, often in ways that quietly shape daily life. The experiences that bring people to her practice tend to sound familiar:
Replaying the same betrayal, rejection, or loss long after it happened, unable to feel finished with it.
Feeling a wave of anger, tightness in the chest, or a sudden drop in mood when a memory surfaces.
Carrying resentment toward a partner, parent, sibling, friend, or former version of themselves, years after the event.
Struggling to trust again, swinging between cutting people off and minimizing what was done.
Feeling pressure to forgive on someone else's timeline, as though forgiveness is a debt that is owed.
Watching the body hold the story: clenched jaw, shallow sleep, a constant sense of bracing.
Lourdes helps clients move through old and recent hurt, including betrayal, rejection, loss, and resentment that keeps resurfacing. Many arrive believing they "should" be able to let it go, only to find the wound hasn't yet healed. Her approach to forgiveness work draws from Attachment Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Somatic Therapy, and explores the emotions beneath anger, the attachment wounds that may have been reactivated, and how the nervous system continues to carry unresolved pain. Forgiveness here is not excusing harm or staying in unsafe contact. It is about reclaiming peace.
Licensed in North Carolina # C010268, and Texas # 113466
Lourdes’ practice centers on Forgiveness Work grounded in Attachment Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Somatic Therapy ( like Brainspotting and EMDR)
Do you want therapy but don’t have time to travel to the office?
Do you want to start counseling, but can’t get away from your desk?
Or maybe you just want therapy from the comfort of your own sofa!
Lourdes provides virtual therapy and it is an excellent option for people who are seeking support, while also wanting the flexibility of being able to do therapy from any location. It’s convenient and time-effective, while also providing the same level of support as traditional in-person therapy. Online therapy in Texas and North Carolina.
